For a long time now, I guess maybe a little over a year, one of my most-used expressions has been, "And that's okay." I never noticed that until I said it to myself this morning, and then I realised that I've used it a lot. What it really means is, "That's how it is, and I don't have any choice but to pick up and move on from this." I got let go by Mr. Fallen, and that was the most awful thing that ever happened to me emotionally, EVER , but it happens to people all the time; it just happened to me that time. And that's okay. See how it works?
There's an okay group from the early 80s called ABC: they had several outstanding songs and many only okay ones. One of their only okay songs, though, ends with their lead singer, Martin Fry, singing,
If you gave me a pound for the moments I've missed
And I got dancing lessons for all the lips I should have kissed,
I'd be a millionaire;
I'd be a Fred Astaire.
Man, I love those lines. I knew what they meant when I was 13, and I've known what they mean ever since, too. He doesn't sound angry when he sings them, or regretful - just resigned. I think those lines are Martin Fry's "And that's okay."
And that's okay.